So I was discussing a Question with a close friend of mine recently. We agreed that the Question should not be asked, except by a close friend, relative, or 1st-generation-immigrant.
Then Joey & I had a disscussion about the Question. He said the Question is a form of small-talk in America, and that strangers & acquaintances ask him the Question all the time.
However, the friend & I agreed that it is a Loaded Question. You never know what you're walking into.
The Question? I'm sure you've already guessed. It's a question every couple is asked ad nauseam once they get married:
"When are you going to have kids?" "Are you planning on having kids?" "Are you trying to have kids [right now]?" "Are you going to hurry up & have some kids?"
I can't even begin to address why asking this question is incorrect social banter. Is it just me?
Joey at first did not see why this question was incorrect social banter. But when I began to describe all the scenarios in which it was just wrong, he agreed.
I often overreact to things, so this may be one of them. But I wholeheartedly think that one should almost never ask this question. The problem with the Question is that the answer, by nature, is either cryptic or ambiguous. Maybe when I'm in my 50s I will think differently, but for now, I feel very strongly about the Question. (On a side note, I like my mother's response to the Question. "Whether they decide to have 10 kids or none at all, I support them." haha. Go Mom!!)
What do you think?